End = New Beginning

A month has gone by. A few things happened, but as they say, with every new ending comes a new beginning. Done and Done.
Day by day we may think that nothing changes, but then you look back and see how far you've come, then you finally realize that everything you have done has actually taught you not one, but many things - made you stronger, wiser and even happier, because happiness means being able to look back and see how far you have come, to then be ready for what life has in store for you.

I used to think that when two people break up a relationship, and then give it another try, the probabilities of it working again are very slim. However, I do believe that people change, and learn, and grow; else everything we do in life would be in vain. So as I embark in what will be the biggest risk in my life, I am filled with hope and faith that it will be the most rewarding adventure that will last a lifetime. Cheers to love, life, happiness and the pursuit.

With Love,
-D

Is it really Society? or plain old Mother Nature?

I wonder if society truly dictates when and where should we live, eat, reproduce and even die. Or is it truly just human nature to go through these stages within certain timeframes. 

I used to tell myself that society is the one that dictates that we should get married in our 20's. And because we all like some sense of ownership of our own destiny, we can say "screw society." However, if we are supposed to have children by early 30's, (given that mother nature will charge more if we do it at a later age) then we have to rush into finding a partner earlier than that. And if we want to enjoy our marriage at least a couple of years, then we are saying that by 28-29 we should start getting married, and a year to plan the wedding, means that you should be engaged by 27, with at least a year into the relationship, means you have to start dating at 26. The latest. I turn 26 in three months. No pressure. Smile, I am sure I will be thinking differently tomorrow :)

-D

Hakuna Matata

Hakuna Matata - It means no worries. 

Today, 17 years later, I saw The Lion King, and as most Disney movies, there is always a message to it. 

As I watched the movie, the catchiest phrase that resonated was "Hakuna Matata: it means no worries, for the rest of your days. It's a problem-free philosophy." I remember it sounded appealing as an 8 year old, and even more now, at 25. 

So yes, as we move forward, the best is to leave the past behind, it makes the road easier to travel as we carry less baggage to drag along. But one thing I do believe you should pack in the road of life: all your lessons learned in the past. Forgive and forget, but bring your lessons learned. 

-db

New Yorkers, According to Me

New York is composed of million of nationalities that at one point migrated to the United Stated in search and hope of the American Dream. As time goes by, New Yorkers have made of NYC the city it is today. There are some misconceptions about new yorkers, the most prevalent is that they are somewhat unfriendly - or plain rude. 

After interacting with them for about a month, I have developed my self-concept of New Yorkers. Happy to share it:

I come from a land where there is a huge hispanic influence, and if you happen to have met any hispanic, you would know they are warm, friendly people. Who would most times offer a smile anywhere, any time. 

I first arrived at what would be my new office, in the middle of the Financial District. The commute to get to work was an experience itself, I tried to fit in by walking as fast as I could, and to an extent being carried away in what seemed to be a river of bankers and executives. 

I joined an elevator full of executives. Used to my upbringing, and the land of The Warm, I walk in and say "Good Morning." Blank Stares. Lesson No. 1: People do NOT greet in elevators, regardless of how many people there are, even if it is one other person and yourself, a new yorker (some argue this just happens in Corporate America) will not return your greeting. The same happened on a couple occasions as I entered several elevators, not just at my workplace but also residential areas - sorry to those who defend New Yorkers, but in no elevator do people greet. 

One thing I must say I love about New Yorkers, is the feeling of indifference towards anyone's thoughts. Which is highly reflected in their attire. I admired the women (and men) who dressed for themselves, with clothing pieces that I am sure were carefully selected but only to please themselves, as to most of the society it would seem tacky and careless.

People also perform all sorts of behavior on the streets. Many performers are incredibly talented, and entertain crowds along the parks on a daily basis, making a living out of it, and hoping one day they get discovered by that agent that will change their lives. Other performers very cleverly, build an audience and their expectations in a very skillful way, and even collect their tips before doing their great show- which, to my surprise, was not that great. Without a doubt, entertaining to the fullest and adding to the City's life. 

While performers work for a living, other praise for salvation - I lost count of how many people told me (and the world) that their God was the way to Salvation, and the Final Day was fast approaching - alarming, yet fictitious.

One day I was rushing to the subway and I held the door for an older lady. As I am holding it, I noticed she stops, and is not going through. I look down as I noticed a puddle - of yellow pee - growing, surrounding her feet. Really? I hesitated for a moment, was not sure if I should continue to hold the door or give her some privacy. In disbelief,  I continued to walk as I tried to make sense of the series of images in my head, and wondered how far can New Yorkers go. 

I grew accustomed to the performances, bums, preachers, but my last day was a farewell to top it off. I rode on my typical "Gate 51" bus, and the guy next to me, who was making incessantly annoying jokes, pulled his bag of powder and snorted it. While his woman had his hand on his personal area. I was too shocked to see his reaction to it. Fortunately, the next was my stop.  

New Yorkers are nice people, they won't proactively approach you, which explains the popularity of single's mixers and enrollment on match.com. However, when they are introduced, they may just be as normal and friendly as you and I, with a higher sense of confidence and spontaneity. At the end, you need that tough-ness, because when you make it there, you make it everywhere. 

-db

Forgiveness

“It is not the experience of today that drives us mad; it is remorse or bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring”

I think I knew that the reason why I was not so looking forward to my future was in part driven by a sense of bitterness that was dragging my feet and making my load heavier. However, as much as I tried to consciously forgive and forget, it seemed like my heart and emotions had a mind of their own.

Today was day I said it is Okay. I forgive you, now and for ever, and I free myself from living in darkness and misery. I am happy and I have nothing but good memories from you. I understand our paths will not be the same and I will gladly walk on my own. I look forward to discovering what life has for me, what God has in store, what the Universe has planned and the numerous tricks my mind will continue to play on me :)

I can now listen to songs, watch movies and drive through familiar paths without feeling that hate for you, regret, sadness and pain. Instead I will listen to your songs and remember you singing them, I will drive down the memory lane and think of beautiful times, and I will cuddle up, watch a movie and enjoy a good bag of pop corn, because Life is Good.

I leave and walk away with this quote: “Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness”
I feel wiser already!

I love you, and wish the best for you,
-D

Back to Basics

The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "d-needs": esteem , friendship and love, security, and physical needs. If these "deficiency needs" are not met, the body gives no physical indication but the individual feels anxious and tense.

This is the perfect explanation of what is going on through my head - At. This. Precise. Moment.

I do not think my basic needs are met, and by basic I mean job (which I do have one, just don't know whats next) and hence I have been at my worse performance at work. Ever. Personal security and financial security are somewhat linked to my job and the future that awaits for me there, a future I no longer look forward to and a job I have not been doing so well at, and despise every day a bit more. Then there is health and well-being: I can say I am overall a healthy person, but lately (due to stress) I have not been able to enjoy my health. To extent I am now going to a chiropractor for physical therapy.

I figured that if I cannot meet my "second level" in Maslow's hierarchy of needs, then no wonder why I cannot move on and have the third layer of human needs met, which are social and involve feelings of belongingness.

I will go back to basics, maybe after I have my shit together, then the pieces of the puzzle will follow.

I believe that the important thing is to try your best to understand what is going on and why are things not working out the way you'd like to, and then act upon that.

Today is Back to basics, day 3

-D

Is the rest really unwritten?

Do you read your horoscope on a daily basis? or how about going to visit these people that read the cards, or your palms, and can predict your future?

I wonder if the future is ever really "written". Some people call it coincidence and others call it destiny. Then how do we know wether or not we can change our future? and if our future is really written, then there is not some much need that we continuously try to influence it.

The reason why I wonder is because I find myself at a crossroads facing an important decision, and it is so hard to determine what the best option is - and it is at these times when I wish I could see through a crystal bowl what my future holds. However, whenever something does not go the way I planned, I tell myself that God has a plan, or that this is destiny or is happening for a reason.

I do believe that things happen for a reason, but how do we learn what the reason is/was? and how do we know that the "other" decision we could have taken, would have led us to a different series of events. I guess we just live content with the decision we make, no turning back. But how about before we make that decision, what happens then?

And then, to what extent can we influence our future? some will say that we write our own book, and every day is a new page, and we have to think positively for our goals to come true. That we need to follow that dream that leads our lives. But other times hear "You are supposed to become a Doctor, it's written."

And what happens when you don't know what your dream is? what happens to your book then?

I guess today I did not have 1000 things to tell you, but 1000 things to ask you.

-D

Hope for next Generations

This is the Winning Essay that I wrote for a scholarship:


Do you feel grateful every time you have a glass of water? or how about when you take a shower, eat, or sleep under a roof?
According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, water, food, clothing and shelter, represent the the largest and most fundamental requirements for survival. Perhaps this would explain why 22,000 children die around the world today: the causes are poverty, hunger, easily preventable diseases and illnesses, and other poverty-related causes.

Poverty can be defined as the state of one who lacks a certain amount of material possessions or money. Absolute poverty refers to being unable to afford basic human needs, such as clean and fresh water, nutrition, education, clothing and shelter. According to the world bank, over 80% of the world’s population live on under $10 a day. Some of the biggest problems of poverty are caused by a lack of medicine, education and a huge disproportion on the distribution of money. Therefore, in order to abolish poverty, education for societies that live in undesirable conditions must be a priority. Health is a major cause of death in poor societies, a health system must be implemented, along with a way to maintain it. Last but not least, to eliminate poverty in the world is an attempt that will take effort and collaboration of the world’s population, rich and poor, and an investment that will require a leap of faith from all of those who invest in these developing countries. I believe that poverty is a problem that can be solved as long as key factors, such as education, health and money, are no longer an issue.

"Give a man a fish and you will feed him for a day, teach a man how to fish, and feed him for a lifetime." Education is a consequence of poverty, and as so, it continues as a vicious cycle that does not contribute to the growth of a society, but rather slows progress down. I believe that an education will provide the tools necessary to grow and develop a community. Children can grow to have different roles in the community, some will become farmers and grow food; some doctors, that will cure and prevent illnesses caused by hunger, virus and living conditions; some will work in construction for future homes; and some will create artifacts to sell and export. I believe that the more education they have, the more the economy will flow as there will be more jobs and growth opportunity.

In addition, there should be education on how to maintain hygiene, eating patterns and sexuality to prevent illnesses that may arise from certain living conditions. Medical facilities should be established to maintain health and remain hopeful about a future that does exists.

Inequality is usually associated with poorer, developing nations. But for many years, studies have shown that many wealthier nations also suffer from inequality, sometimes at levels similar to those of some developing countries. I witness this everyday as I walk to and from school: homeless men and women on the side of the street and on every corner asking for some change. However, I have formed my opinion of part of the cause of this problem: education. I do not limit education to high-school, and even college education. I am referring to education on problems such as drugs, alcoholism, and prostitution. There is a common belief that most homeless people are drunks, drug addicts or have another sort of addiction. A good friend of mine, who shares my passion for learning about poverty and doing what we can to reduce it, chatted with some homeless who have made South Beach their "home without a roof". She interviewed a few, and all of them had a drug addiction. They would not only confess that it was their addiction what brought them to their current condition, but would also admit that any money they collected through donations (and the state), was spent on alcohol. This infuriated me, as some of these people actually had an education and a life that was not in extreme poverty, but due to a lack of information or guidance, they find themselves in miserable conditions. This is another reason why I don't believe in donations to the poor on the streets, but I believe in investing our time to assist these men and women who have lost the path and purpose in life.

Inequality is a current issue, 76% of the world's goods are consumed by the wealthiest 20% of the world's population, while the rest starves. The share on income is poorly distributed, according to the World Bank, around 60% of the share of income belongs to the richest 20%. Social cohesion and the level of trust and comfort people will have in other societies is one of the factors I consider as a milestone for the investment that it may take to fix the economic system in developing countries. A strong financial system, backed by a solid government system, would help the economy flow. I do not believe in just donating money to buy water and food for the poor. I believe in investing in education, which will generate jobs, and then you can have farmers mowing their land, teachers educating their future citizens, doctors curing the sick, women sewing and creating fabrics, which can then be sold and exported to bring an income, and so on. This way, an economy will be formed, along with laws and regulations, and as previously mentioned: a solid government system. But we have some problems that require bigger investments: the land may not be treatable, so a technologically advanced irrigation system may be needed; solid infrastructures will need to be created for school, living and medical facilities; and an monetary capital will be needed to fund these. It is this type of investment the one that will require a leap of faith from humanity to help our brothers and sisters, and he future that awaits our future generations.

Explosiones de Amor

Me encanta sentir el amor, en cualquiera de sus formas: una buena amiga, una mano que te ayuda, una persona desamparada a quien le das agua de vida, una sonrisa al extraño, una comida de tu mamá.

Muchas veces nos preocupamos por lo que parece ser grande, tu esposo, novio, hijos, ilusiones... Pero no paramos a disfrutar de los detalles que son lo que hacen nuestro dia a dia.

Incluso me sucede que me preocupo por esas ilusiones de amor, que si duran? si no es de verdad? si sera El verdadero? si me quiere o no me quiere? si es honesto o son sólo palabras lo que dice?

Lo mejor es disfrutar la explosión de amor, como si fuese un show de fuegos artificiales, que terminará pero lleno tu mirada de colores y fantasias por un tiempo, y el año que viene, el dia de la independencia, o el año nuevo, continuará trayendo ilusiones de maravillas.

Una grata sorpresa, vi a un amor, materia pura convertida en una explosión de alquimia, por un momento mis iluciones de vivir una eternidad con él volvieron a invadir a mi corazón y mi mente. Claro que es una explosión y nada más, una grata sorpresa que me regaló y dibujó una sonrisa en mi alma y mi corazón.

Aprendí a disfrutar, admirar y dejarme llevar por mis explosiones, manteniendo los pies en la tierra. Aceptarlas por lo que son, y recordar los bonitos momentos que vivimos.

-D

Alquimia, en nuestro dia a dia

"Si lo que tu has encontrado esta formado por materia pura, jamas se pudrirá. Y tu podrás volver un dia. Si fue solo un momento de luz, como la explosión de una estrella, entonces no encontrarás nada cuando regreses. Pero habrás visto una explosión de luz. Y esto sólo ya habra valido la pena." El Alquimista, Paulo Coelho.

Esta frase resonó en mí como el eco en una cueva desolada. Está relacionada al amor. Millones de veces nos ilusionamos con lo que hasta llegamos a llamar "amor." La prueba esta en si ese amor perdurará miles de años, tormentas e incendios - ya que como la materia pura, jamas se pudrirá. La respuesta a esta pregunta es que la mayoría de las veces - se pudrirá.

Ahora, yo no se mucho de Alquimia, ni me recuerdo de mis clases de química, pero teóricamente existe la posibilidad de que (en este libro) el metal cambie de propiedad, y se convierta en oro. Si es así, entonces tambien existe la posibilidad de que el amor cambie de forma, sea un amor de amigo(a), novio(a), esposo(a), padre y madre. Tenemos esos amigos que se convierten en conocidos con el tiempo, pero tambien tenemos los que siguen firmes aunque años hayan pasado sin que se hayan visto. Llega tambien un momento en nuestras vidas en el que nuestros padres se convierten en grandes amigos. Pero una de las conversiones más curiosas, que rara vez sucede, son en las que la persona quien fue algún dia nuestra pareja, se convierte en un gran amigo.

He tenido la fortuna de tener grandes amores que ahora somos amigos, una amistad que perdurara por siempre.

Pero la cantidad de explosiones que he visto en mi corta vida, han llenado mi dia a dia de entretenimiento y fantasias. Tambien he llegado a conocer grandes caracteres que me han hecho crecer como persona, y me han dejado de recuerdo memorias, hobbies y gustos musicales. Pero lo mas importante que me han dejado es la continua esperanza de que algún dia conoceré a mi "materia pura" y amor eterno.

-D

Law of Attraction

Think of a number. Keep it to yourself until the end, this is your number.

In the animal kingdom there is a theory, that male and females look for certain characteristics in their mate for that specific reason: to mate. Therefore, when they look for the opposite sex specie, they search for qualities they would like their offspring to inherit. Characters such as strength, physical appearance, and survival instincts are on the top of the list. There is what is called the alpha male and the alpha female, which are the top male and female of the pack - and of society - species that have everything that anyone can wish for.

Humans are animals, therefore we belong to the Animal Kingdom - and these same rules apply to us. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt will mate, soccer players pair up with models - they are alphas of our society, grade A. In real life though, we know that there is a range of males and females, not all can be alphas, otherwise they would not be unique - and not all of us have a six pack, are tall, tan, and make a million dollars a year. The way this theory applies to humans, is that we will look for specific qualities in the person we want to mate with, given that ultimately we will want to have offspring with that person. In our society, we not only go for the physical appearance, but we also go for the intellectual: is he/she smart? funny? witty? clever? aggressive? determined? Depending on what we consider valuable, we will a) choose to meet that person at the bar b) choose whether or not to go out on a dinner, date, propose, marry and so on. Given that not all humans are alpha, we will look for that person that will represent the best we can get and that will have what we consider important for our children, and find the best that can be reached depending of where we fall on the scale. Depending on how "good" you think of yourself, you will find someone who meets your level. This is the reason why, subconsciously, when we meet and we choose the person that we want to - meet at the bar, date, marry and have children with - will have what we think is important to transfer on to our next generation.

The number you thought of earlier, is the number you rate yourself on the scale from 1-10, 10 being the alpha specie - pure breed

In an experiment conducted, they asked 30 people to rate themselves, and then pair up with someone from the group - most couples that paired up had the same number.

My friends and I proved the theory. A couple rated themselves very similar: 7.5 and 7.8. However, one of them disagreed that he was the best she could get. She claimed that she could get someone "better" yet she had picked him (proving our theory, not hers). He, on  the other hand, claimed that at this point in time, she was the best he could get, and she had all the qualities that he would want in a woman for his children to inherit.

My ex-boyfriend and I did the test as well, we were fairly off, by .5. I agreed that we were in the same "range," reason why we dated. However, I wonder if that slight difference was what caused our relationship to break, because one of us thought we could get someone better, who would be the best we can "obtain". I also wonder if people break up on this basis: one is smarter than the other, one has more ambitions than the other, one is more good looking than the other. This is also why I believe that when we find our mate, it is a crucial ingredient that we will want to improve and get better for that other person. I believe that we want - and should - try and live up to that expectation of wanting to be the best that our partner thinks we can be, this way we will continue to excel in our personal improvement and will continue to add value to the relationships we are in.

For those who are single, do you think you would settle? or will you search until you find that person that will be the best you can be? and how do you know how good is your best - or how good do YOU rate yourself?

It is not about "settling" for someone in our range, it is about knowing who your are, knowing what you are worth, and wanting and finding the best we can get, which most times will not be The Alpha, but will be our alpha.

-D

The Happy Button

It is not about the things that happen to you, it is about how you decide to react to them.

Life should be about staying positive, surround yourself with positive people, have positive thoughts, think about the positive things that surround you at this particular moment in time. If all else fails, just hit that Happy Button, the one that will remind you to change your attitude and the way you view things, the one that will show you what is truly worth it in life.

Today I found myself pressing the Happy Button on more that one occasion! And I must say, I do not think my day would have been as successful had I not done it :). It is said that it is the law of attraction what affects what happens to us in life, it is "The Secret." This means that if you are miserable and constantly complaining about the things we do not have (which will happen to ALWAYS be there, no matter how much money we make, where we live - you get it) you will continue attracting these negative things. Whether as if we hit the button and change to happy thoughts, we will attract only positie energy that will bring us what our hearts truly desire.

Remember one thing, it does not matter whatever happens to us if we can't control it - focus on what you can control, which is the way you react to it.

And don't forget to hit that Happy Button =)

These are some of the reasons why I love to run

The best feeling is to not only release anything that may be bothering and occupying your thoughts, 

but also to observe nature's beauty, 

and God's way of reminding us that we are truly nothing compared to His Magnificence.

...Fortunately I carry my iPod or Android to capture these moments <3

"You want what you can't have"

They always say "you want what you can't have" ...is it the same when it comes down to relationships? 

When you walk down the street, you always want that job, those shoes, that car... but do we also want that man that does not give us the attention that we require? And for the men, is it true that you find more attractive the woman who does not cater to you as you are probably used to?

Many times times we call it The Game - we cannot call within a certain time period, or we should wait a couple of days before we meet again - or even at times, we do not want to have sex because it is too soon. But do we really believe these 'rules' of The Game, or are we just playing because society tells us?

I once tried to play The Game, only to find out that at the end you end up giving up - Game Over. He called, didn't call, too much too soon, or maybe nothing for too long. But it comes to a time where I have just been tired of  playing, and decide to go full frontal and do what my heart has told me to do - Romantic, yet silly and useless, as it has clearly failed. You see? when I say full on, I mean calling when I want, not when I should, answering and yearning for that date as I miss him and want him now. The problem with this is that (it seems to be) men take it as needy, or too demanding, or maybe even dare think that one does not have a life just because we (I) reflect my constant daydreaming through a text message, or a call, or whatever other reflection of love. 

So - why is it that the guy I did not like keeps calling, texting and continues to try and grab my attention? I think it may be because I do not show as much care and concern as I do for someone I like. Therefore, he chases me because he does not have me: proving the theory "You want what you can't have."

Based on previous experience, and in order to test the  theory, I decided to be in total control of my behavior with a guy I "partially" liked (if there is such a stage). When I called (or texted, as this is what most people are used to and I have happened to finally comply with) he would be nice - just nice. However, if and when I would purposely stop texting for a couple of days, the sweetest surprises awaited for me. The funny thing is that the same happened as we started going out on actual dates, they would all start with a "if you want to come to ____" and never an actual request for my presence. Once I started pulling back, the invitations were more what they are supposed to be: an invitation because HE wants me to come, not because it is convenient given time and space, or because I wanted to.

I find that this is great in theory, the bad part and what they dont tell you, is that when you are truly head over heels for him, the minutes seem hours, the days seem weeks, and the weeks, well if it is weeks before we hear back from him, there you might as well grow old, alone and start getting some cats. This is when it truly becomes a challenge to continue with your life (which you DO have!) even though he is constantly in your thoughts. 

I would have to agree with the theory, and it is not about The Game, but we tend to value everything that much more when we have to work for it - and as much as I am having to work for it, I want him to work for it too! So hold your horses, and download that one application that does not allow you to send more than one text in a period of 3 hours - and if all goes as planned, he will value your outbursts of emotion as much as we value theirs. 

Layers...

After writing my previous post, I got to thinking... How can we get through people's layers, and how do we identify them?

There are different types of layers, women tend to be bitchy, (too) funny, shy, slutty or simply quiet. Men tend to be douches, players, or comedians.

Here is my attempt to explain them:

The Bitch: Been there, done that - and I must say, it sis probably the easiest of all, given that you dont put up with bs from no one. As soon as there is something you dont like, or whenever you sense fear of getting close or being at the verge of actually allowing someone to see the true self, it is quite easy to come back with a comment where you clearly state that you value your privacy, self control and in actual control of the situation. The problem is that the bitch keeps everyone at distance, and no one truly gets to know and love the person for who she is.

Then there is the extra-super-overly funny girl: Being funny its clearly a skill that most times is innate - and something Im not too sure it can be taught - I have yet to see "how to become funny for dummies" book. A great skill, as it makes the person easy to be with, fun and relaxing even. But either way, I am sure we have all that friend, that has a great personality and can make anyone on the table laugh. But whats even more admirable is that not only she is funny, but also in times of crisis (for her) she is at her funniest! It is only when you truly know the person that you realize something may be wrong, and then the layers start to come off.

The Slut - No need for a definition of the term: I believe that this layer is the easiest to identify, and this is because at times we tend to confuse giving everything your body can have with giving everything your emotions can have. You see (mind you, this are my beliefs) we (women) tend to believe that if we have sex, the man will come closer to us - emotionally speaking - and needless to say, this hardly ever happens. Therefore, women tend to try and maintain a flame burning by having sex - just sex. Never opening up (not literally) to the possibility of having the other person get to know the true self. There is a difference between making love and having sex. You make love when both emotionally and physically (keyword emotion) you give yourself entirely to your lover (keyword: love). And it is that much better than sex.

For the guys my analysis is simpler,

The douchebags (see below for urbandictionary.com's definition) are just it. Never get any deeper than the bit of surface they reflect. I sometimes wonder if there is ANYTHING at all underneath the layers.
I have clearly met - even shamelessly - dated maybe one or two. They never open up to what is inside, on the contrary, they behave as 'douchebag' as possible to deflect any sort of emotion that may be at the core.

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	buy douche bag mugs, tshirts and magnets |a| - someone who;; talks shit, starts shit, wont finish their shit, &&and the end of the day still thinks they own the universe. closely related to;; asshole "god, he walks around and acts like hes the best thing in the world when really no one likes him. what a douche bag."

Then there is the one who pretends to be a comedian - by making fun of everyone around them, someone who is clearly hiding something. 

The player does not want to get serious at the fear of possibly being hurt (like most of us did at one point) so relationships always stay at a minimum. 

Then there is the people who always text message or chat - great way to keep things at a minimum and straight to the point. 

Mil cosas que decirte empiezan por la primera...

Una vez me lo describieron así: 

A veces somos como una cebolla - creamos capas que nos protegen de el mundo y sus adversidades. De la misma manera andamos por las calles, enfrentándonos al trabajo, los amigos, los llamados "amigos," al jefe, la pareja y a veces hasta tu familia - con capas que nos protegen y que esconden nuestra verdadera identidad, la esencia que nos hace únicos. 

Todavia batallo con la idea de soltar mis capas, se hace mucho mas fácil caminar, no con capas, sino con un metodo de defensa. Pero conocí a alguien con quien de repente mis capas fueron desapareciendo - sin importar mi esfuerzo para mantenerlas en alto. Alguien quien en un periodo de minutos ya había compartido algunas de las creencias (religion, sexualidad, fe, amor) que no le contamos a un desconocido. El sentimiento que tuve fue totalmente nuevo para mi, senti ganas de distanciar a esta persona, ya que así como uno no sale de su casa sin cartera, identificación, (o ropa!), yo no salgo sin mis capas. Resultó ser que decidi dejarlo entrar (no literalmente) y aventurarme  a lo que sucede cuando uno suelta sus capas, cosa que sólo ha ocurrido contadas las veces. 

Además de todo, llegue a pensar que el riesgo de 'soltar' mis capas en el cyberespacio es mucho menos riesgoso que salir sin capas, o sin ropa. Por esa razón, te doy la bienvenida a mi blog - sin capas, murallas o 'samurai,' en donde siento que tengo mil cosas que decirte, como una vez dije. 

Pienso que a veces el desahogarse, hablar o escribir tus pensamientos, ayuda a conocerse a si mismo - y aunque si me conoces sabes que no soy de monólogos, si sabes que me gusta hablar :) tambien tengo una opinion para todo, y nunca trato de aparentar lo que no soy... Lo contrario, a veces soy tan honesta que me meto en problemas - y lo malo es que hay palabras que no puedes borrar, y hay tiempos que no puedes retroceder. Ni rehacer.